2018 MKE Week 18 – Judgmental
This week in my Franklin makeover, my word is discipline.
I am disciplining myself to be a non-judgmental observer of life. I find that I am extremely judgmental according to the dictionary.
Being the Non-judgmental Observer
I used to think that being judgmental meant finding fault and I had pretty much given that up (except for criticizing myself, but I am overcoming that). I looked at the dictionary for guidance and found this:
- involving the use or exercise of judgment.
- tending to make moral judgments:
- to avoid a judgmental approach in dealing with divorced couples.
That led me to looking at judgment.
- an act or instance of judging.
- the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion:
- a man of sound judgment.
- the demonstration or exercise of such ability or capacity:
- The major was decorated for the judgment he showed under fire.
- the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind:
- Our judgment as to the cause of his failure must rest on the evidence.
- the opinion formed:
- He regretted his hasty judgment.
- a judicial decision given by a judge or court.
- the obligation, especially a debt, arising from a judicial decision.
- the certificate embodying such a decision and issued against the obligor, especially a debtor.
Which, of course, led me to judging.
verb (used without object), judged, judg·ing.
- to act as a judge; pass judgment:
- No one would judge between us.
- to form an opinion or estimate:
- I have heard the evidence and will judge accordingly.
And there you have it, we are judging whether we form a good or bad opinion of something. Much more challenging to be non-judgmental than I thought. A work in progress.
As part of my discipline, I wrote a new chapter for my upcoming book. You can read it here if you want.
See you next week.